onefate's Revelife

Some culture are just the way they are

Mon, 29 Jun 2009 05:33:40 GMT

so I learned from my Japanese "girlfriend" that their culture is not really expressive. This is the reason why they can only say dai suki da yo (i like you a lot) instead of aishiteru (i love you). Maybe I am not Japanese that's why I cannot really understand that. That part of the culture that just needed to be accepted as they are.

Does it have to be Self-Affliction?

Tue, 24 Feb 2009 01:02:19 GMT

I realized that when we are calm people are more leaning towards calmness too. I guess it is the vibes that we expose to others that makes them reflect the same way. Not all cases though but it makes sense to think that if we are weary, others might sound weary too.
So I guess, the way to make someone understand you is if we give people time to understand. It is in their own freewill that will allow them to have a space to realize that there must be something good in the way we have explained it. If they are not ready to listen, then it means they just need time to be able to grasp the unimaginable which may be important to us and not to them. I guess compromises help people to understand each other's weaknesses that we sometimes have to succumb to the frailties which gives us knowledge that we thought could not have been explored.

We all thirst in some way or another and we will one day seek His mighty help and divine providence & salvation.

John 7:37 On the last day, that great [day] of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out, saying, "If anyone thirsts, let him come to Me and drink."

Matthew 9:29 Then He touched their eyes, saying, "According to your faith let it be to you."

Choices in Life

Thu, 19 Feb 2009 22:49:27 GMT

Sometimes I would like to have my life fast forward and see what will happen to the things that happened or happening to me today. It was a relief looking what I've managed so far. I have gained strength and wisdom in time through personal outlook and friends who have been with me in every steps.

I would like to think through going forward some factors that affect the choices we made in our life.

I would like to ask myself why are we putting so much restrictions and conditions on who are we going to spend our life with. What if we just simply give ourselve without any doubt? Is thinking too much about what will happen in the future is in fact altering the course of our life?

What if the one that we had could be the one that is simply the best for us. What if we let it go thinking that it will not work out. What if the condition does not really matter after all? What if the condition or the situation can be altered. what if the conditional becomes unconditional. What if it can be learned. what if life matters and that you ought to live with someone you just let go. What if there is a chance to alter that and change the decision would you rather act now and do something about your future or would you still look for another person who you think will be best for you?

What if there is no future? Or what if the future is not the the one that we expected it to be? Is it that we create our own future? If we want it beautiful then we can make it beautiful. Therefore, we'll just be happy for the rest of our life not thinking about these what ifs. What if it does not really happen? We cannot really tell the future then why are we so worried about today that we are stopping things to happen for our future? Why can't we just let things be just the way they are or why can't we just live happily ever after by starting by what we have today? Aren't we happy enough? Is there more than enough? We only have a few years to live and sooner or later we'll end up saying have we done enough or have we regret any? Time flies so fast and the agony of thinking whether or not something is possible will find its own reason. Would you rather stop things and wait for things or do something? Are the reason for differences a reason for misunderstanding? Are there way for reason to openly flow through anybody's intellectual wavelenght. Does it matter if we're not born with it? I'm sure all things can be learned only if we want to. If we are not leaning towards it then we have closed the space to learn. I think I just want to keep on thinking but at some point in time, we have to stop to make decision and take the risk.

Does anybody need to prove something before it can be known? Knowledge is not something that we keep it is something that we share. What is then the purpose of living without being open to all the knowledge. Having the intelligence does not mean being smart. Is intellectual adeptness a reason for one to require a proof before knowing something. Why did we end up in a society that is complicated where we are bounded by rules of dos and donts?

There will always be eccentricities. We don't have to solve all these. if try to solve these today, we will end up frustrated for not just trying to know about it. I guess we are just guided by our values and beliefs most importantly. However, as to what decisions or future to take, it is simply upon our freewill. Is there any other force that influence our decision being swayed to lean from left to right? Maybe the more forces, the more possibilities that we need to analyze.

I would like to post the lyrics of the 100 years song by Five for Fighting (for SmallVille). it is so true and time flies. We cannot keep up with it. We just go along with it and we absorb what we like to absorb based on our filters. People have their own filters. I hope their filters will not reject us somehow so that people can connect freely and learn more from each other without dampening our soul or being.

I can say that sometimes the filters of life can somehow delay our growth but sometimes it helps us to make smart decisions. I would rather have these filters to guide me through my life. The values and beliefs that help us to identify what is good and right for us. This is the foundation that keep our feet on the ground without being less of a person that we want to be.

I'm 15 for a moment
Caught in between 10 and 20
And I'm just dreaming
Counting the ways to where you are
I'm 22 for a moment
She feels better than ever
And we're on fire
Making our way back from Mars
15 there's still time for you
Time to buy and time to lose
15, there's never a wish better than this
When you only got 100 years to live
I'm 33 for a moment
Still the man, but you see I'm a they
A kid on the way
A family on my mind
I'm 45 for a moment
The sea is high
And I'm heading into a crisis
Chasing the years of my life
15 there's still time for you
Time to buy, Time to lose yourself
Within a morning star
15 I'm all right with you
15, there's never a wish better than this
When you only got 100 years to live
Half time goes by
Suddenly you?re wise
Another blink of an eye
67 is gone
The sun is getting high
We're moving on...
I'm 99 for a moment
Dying for just another moment
And I'm just dreaming
Counting the ways to where you are
15 there's still time for you
22 I feel her too
33 you?re on your way
Every day's a new day...
15 there's still time for you
Time to buy and time to choose
Hey 15, there's never a wish better than this
When you only got 100 years to live

Steps in Coping

Mon, 02 Feb 2009 18:37:57 GMT

I admit that I am trying to still cope. Sometimes, I can feel that I am almost on my way to accepting but when some memories are coming back, I think this makes it harder.

Therefore, I am posting this:

Stages of Coping

-Denial. Why did the relationship end? If we will keep on asking myself for things that could have gone right and what wrong could have been avoided, then it means we are always denying myself to move on.

-Anger. There is a bit of anger in some sense as to why we have even invited ourself to be in the situation of having a relationship knowing that it there can be an emotional turmoil. Or why does it have to happen? Why is it so hard to accept the way things are or at least work it out?

-Bargaining. We tend to think of a way to get back onto the same guy by thinking what we can do to mend the misunderstanding after the breakup

-Depression. We are thinking of all the possibilities that have been done to avoid the situation leading to some sort of us being lonely. Therefore, we should avoid not thinking of the situation but thinking of other activities so as the situation not to control us.

-Acceptance. This is the last stage. We can accept that things are for the better and there is no reason for keeping the heartaches. This can also mean that letting go is loving too to make it better for us. At this stage, we are ready to move on for the next stage of our life. Perhaps another relationship. Hopefully, the past has given us enough education and learning to be a better person and to filter our choices and make the right decision.

According to my best friend, the first 4 entries are not really in particular order. These will keep on haunting us until we finally resolve to the idea of accepting what had become of us in the relationship.

The most effective way of coping is to meet people and get to know more and more friends. While in reality, we need to understand why we really have to end the relationship for the good of 2 people who had shared some good memories together. If in the end, there is still a possibility, God will make a way. If not, then God has other reason for things not to happen the way we wanted to.

Friday, January 23, 2009

Fri, 23 Jan 2009 06:10:33 GMT

Hi everyone! I'm just getting started on Revelife... Drop me a comment if you've got some ideas on what to do first - or just to say, "Hi!"